Stephanie’s Adventures in Singledom: The Valentine’s Day Curse

BY STEPHANIE DOLCE

The day for lovers is a month away. It’s the day that every man in America looks forward too for a very simple reason: sex and lingerie. These men go out of their way to try and set the mood for sex by purchasing over priced roses, panties, and chocolates they believe their wives and girlfriends really, really want. Then there are the men out there unattached who try and solicit sex wherever they can for Valentine’s Day.

Not only is this the day of what I like to call, ‘fake romance” it is also the day that every single woman in America fears. Single women HATE this day with passion. It just doesn’t mean that they aren’t going to have some guy drooling over them, trying to bed them. It means that they are not loved, special, and cared about.

I hate to burst everyone’s bubble, buy Valentine’s day is not the day of love and romance, but a day where stores get you to spend money, money, money on unnecessary things that they tell you symbolize love.

Love is not something you can buy.

Love is not something that comes in a red colored box or even for that matter comes from Victoria’s Secret.

Love is something that comes from the heart. It is one of the most energizing emotions one will ever feel in their lifetime. Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart. True love stories never have endings and can never be bought.

Frankly I believe that Valentine’s Day should be every day of the year. We should be showing everyone who mean something to us that we care and love them. Not just on this day that stores have now taken over as another commercial bust!

I went shopping right after Christmas was over, and every store was already getting set up for Valentine’s Day! And in about a month, the isle that is set up with cards for Valentine’s Day will be jammed solid with men trying to find the “perfect card.” Everyone will be bustling along in the shopping malls buying up all the chocolates, cards, and even some lingerie.

The question I wanted to ask all the shoppers was, why are you really buying the chocolate, cards, and lingerie? Is there a rule that says we must buy our lovers the following or we are damned to the “unromantic garden” for the rest of our lives?

I’m not saying that it isn’t a nice gesture to buy a little something for someone we love. What I am saying is that on this day of love and romance, we all seem to go overboard and overkill the entire point of the day!

Love is like playing the piano. Firs you must learn to play by the rules then you must forget the rules and play from your heart. Why can’t we just play the music that is in our hearts on this day instead of playing the music everyone tells us that we should and have to play?

And to those people who will say, “I don’t have time for lots of things, including a relationship,” A busy life shouldn’t be an excuse to not take the time to get to know someone. You could be missing out on someone wonderful. You have to work at a relationship. It doesn’t come with instructions or a fairy godmother. Guys, women want be the woman you make free time for, not the woman you spend free time with. There’s a difference. And that means more to us than any gift you can get us for Valentine’s Day or any other day!

Valentine’s Day is not just the day to shower someone with affection in the romantic sense, but also to show all our friends that we care. Truth is, you’ll meet hundreds of thousands of people, but you’re only going to lie awake thinking of one.

And as for the all those guys who use this day as a day to get laid, I have just one thing to say that I know you’ll understand. Basketball is like sex. Sometimes you got to go through hoops to get it.

But at least it comes with chocolate.