Stephanie’s Adventures in Singledom: Men, Double Standards, and Love: The main excuse why men don’t want to truly be in love. (Part 1)

BY STEPHANIE DOLCE

Double Standards.

When it comes to dating there are tons of them.

Men, who are never married, which would be a curse if they were instead, a woman, would be seen as an old maid, a spinster. But instead of pitying a guy who is still very single, they are celebrated. These types of men are seen as ungettable, a great catch.

Whereas a woman who can be so accomplished and successful in her life, is left out of the dating scene all because men as we know them are highly afraid of these types of women. So they go for a girl who looks like Barbie, which as a result makes the women who are left out even more productive which in turn makes them more interesting.

Men don’t want an interesting woman. They don’t want a woman who is loving, caring, and in plain terms: a sweetheart. They don’t care about all that jazz if you will. They are all superficial who only focus on what the girl looks like on the outside.

They want “eye candy.” Which is something I will never understand. Why would you want OTHER guys to be staring at YOUR girl? Newsflash: they are not staring at you. They could careless about you and who you are and why you are with the Barbie type girl. The other guys are fantasizing about the girl you are with and what she looks like naked have as you read this.

I think it is because men try and self protect. They think that they can outsmart getting hurt. But these men are fools. You cannot outsmart getting hurt no matter how hard you try. You can’t hide from love because you are afraid it won’t workout or maybe you will get unglued. See, if he only likes her for her looks he doesn’t have to get to know her, he doesn’t have to fall for her head over heels, hence he self protects his heart from having any “feelings” for her and this way he doesn’t get hurt when he realizes he is in love with her.

See, guys just want the perfect girl. But the perfect girl doesn’t exist. And if they did, they wouldn’t know if one was standing right next to them. Everyone is going to have their own set of flaws. But it is these flaws that we are so embarrassed about that make us who we are today. Nobody is perfect is a saying that I don’t think anyone male or female totally understands. There are people who can’t even get out of their own way let alone think the world revolves around them. Tell them this, and they will go all “diva” on you. It is our differences that make us unique. Not one person is identical to another. But yet, most women, want to end up looking like the girl standing next to them at the grocery store, at the gym, in the club, or down the street. This is beyond stupidity. Its not that every girl feels threatened by the girl standing next to them, its goes back to the guy wanting Ms. Barbie. And men are so freaking stupid that they can’t tell a fake girl from a real girl. If the girl’s breasts are big and shake up and down, you best go get a cup to catch the drool off his chin.

A girl appreciates it when a guy notices her. A girl appreciates it when a guy compliments her. Hence, if all the guys are focusing on a girl because of how her body looks, each and every girl is going to want some of that attention, even if that means becoming “plastic” herself, all for the attention of a guy.

But here’s the thing, in the end those relationships never work out because when you are drawn into them for superficial reasons, you end up hurting yourself over and over again.

Self-protection. The wrong chick can’t get you unglued, right?

Then all you end up doing is building wall after wall around yourself so when a down to Earth, sweet, charming, genuine person comes along, you will reject her, all because of your “love” for the “perfect” girl.

When something happens to you that has never happened before shouldn’t you at least have to find out what that is before you reject what could be the possibility of a great relationship?

Pull off the mask and you will find your life and what you have been passing up.

Life’ not all about looks and glory. Life is about living it.

And who wants to live it alone when you can be with someone who can bring out the best in you who will love you for you?

A life without risk is no life at all. And if you are afraid to meet someone because of this fear, and see this person’s inner beauty, then my friend, you have missed out on something that even Romeo and Juliet would ask, “What are you waiting for?”

Making excuses is taking the easy way out. The more and more you hear the excuses the easier it becomes to push people away from you. But no matter how hard a guy tries there is one thing he keeps on forgetting. You can close your eyes to things you don’t want to see, but you can’t close your heart to the things you don’t want to feel.