Stephanie’s Adventures in Singledom: Interesting Question

BY STEPHANIE DOLCE

“Do you ever wish you had a second chance to meet someone again for the first time?”

I think this is a great question, because I have been starting to think about what would happen if I had a second chance to meet a few people all over again. Would I have done things differently or would have the same events still happened?

I don’t live my life with regrets, let’s get that straight, but still, it’s just interesting to sit and think about how life has panned out thus far. If I didn’t do A, then B, wouldn’t of happened. And if I did A all over again knowing how it turned out, would I actually do the same thing all over again or flip the script?

In relationships we tend to think about the would have’s, the could have’s, and the should have’s but be careful who you let back into your life because there was a reason why you took them out of it in the first place. When you’ve had a past with someone, you have to realize that it can’t just go away. You will always have those memories that you treasure. But having memories and giving them second chances are two totally different things.

Also, we tend to judge our relationships and what we should do or where we should be based on what someone else is doing. We tend to forget that when we try and mirror someone else’s dream, someone else’s life, we aren’t doing our dreams or our life justice. Sometimes we forget just how blessed we actually are while we are sitting there brewing over just how life isn’t fair. Just go on Facebook and see all the people getting engaged, married, having babies, etc. And there there are the people complaining, ‘Why not me?” (Remember, it could always be worse.) Life may never be perfect, but it does have it’s perfect moments. It’s amazing when you find the one that makes you realize why no other relationship worked in the past, you tend to laugh at yourself for getting so upset about everything in the first place.

Life is not about how many mistakes you’ve made or how many regrets you have, it’s about what you have learned from them. And if you’ve said no to the question, “Do you ever wish you had a second chance to meet someone again for the first time?” Then you have indeed learned something from your past experiences. It doesn’t mean that we want to go back in the past, it just means that we know we are better off for what occurred back then. Because everything we go through in life makes us stronger, wiser, and better.

We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned to actually enjoy the life that we’ve been given. Once you can do that, then the why, when, where and how, won’t be something we will constantly be asking ourselves, because we will have indeed learned that when one door closes another opens, and we won’t miss the new door opening because we let go of handle of the door that’s closed behind us.