Stephanie’s Adventures in Singledom: Looks or Brains?

BY STEPHANIE DOLCE

As I am putting together my upcoming book, “Hello Love, Where’s Cupid?” which will be released this November, I decided to go around and ask people around Rockland and online the following question: “What is more important to you, looks or brains?” Here are some of the answers by the guys first:

Jon: On one side of the coin, looks are important, but overall an intelligent woman is sexy.

William: Looks. If I am not attracted to her, then I wouldn’t want to even try to strike up any conversation.

Jordan: Brains. I need someone to help me out of a situation that I can’t handle.

Peter: Brains. A beautiful face can only keep you distracted for so long. Sadly, though this world today chooses looks over brains.

Jim: Neither. I think personality is more important than both looks and brains.

Here are some of the answers by the ladies:

Kate: Brains. I enjoy having great intelligent conversations.

Deanna: Brains because looks fade.

Alice: I think that guys are judged by their friends and are pressured to date the “fake” girls or their friends will call them “gay” as most of the guys I know do to each other. That being said, as guys grow up they mature and form their own opinions and start going for girls they think are attractive yet also smart and have a future ahead.

Dina: As a girl, I see a lot of other girls judging guys only skin deep and vice versa. It’s more important what’s on the inside than the outside.

Jennifer: Can’t I have both?

I think Alice hit the nail on the head. There are a lot of guys who are pressured by their friends to only date “certain” girls and not the ones they really want to date because they aren’t part of the “clique” and I think Dina hit the nail on the head when she said that she sees a lot of people judging others only skin deep. What is important to remember is that While it is true that your initial attraction to someone may first be physical and based on appearance, the real truth about who and why we are attracted to some people and not others boils down to chemistry. I spent a great deal of time studying and researching chemical attraction and chemistry for my upcoming book and I was amazed at the studies scientists have performed as you will be too when you read them!

Not only does chemistry play an important role in who we are attracted too, but body language and personality are also factors as to who we want to seduce, who we want to be near and who we eventually marry. In next week’s blog I will give all the readers of the Rockland County Times an exclusive peek inside my upcoming book, “Hello Love, Where’s Cupid?” But in the meantime I leave you with this note of advice:

Be careful not to judge a book by its cover. What you think the story is and what it really reads, could be two different things.