Stephanie’s Adventures in Singledom

Same old story.

Boy meets girl, and she falls so much harder than him; or does she?

We just ended that time of year when I was reminded that, “”In every girl’s life, there’s a boy she’ll never forget & a summer when it all began,” all unexpectedly. There were whistles, bells or sirens. It wasn’t something that I planned, but the most unexpected relationships, are the ones that end up being the best relationships. The reason is simply because you are comfortable just being you; you aren’t pretending to be someone you aren’t, so others see you for who you are and not who you are pretending to be.

Summer is my favorite time of year. During the summer, we feel free, we feel the promise of being able to forget what has happened so far and the promise of starting over. And that is exactly what I was thinking about going into this past summer; a fresh start. I started my “fresh” tour by going to the Jersey Shore in June; a place I haven’t visited in over ten years. Next on my list, was working again with children; since I haven’t worked with them in a “class” setting in over two years. I was going to be doing two things I had passion about: being around kids and art. I love teaching kids art. Whether I write a poem, or get out the colored pencils, there’s just something about being able to express yourself using all different types of materials.

I also had an open mind going into the summer in the “romance and love” department too.

As I discussed in last week’s post, age doesn’t always determine maturity. Fun has no age limit. Love has no age limit. Age has extremely little to do with anything that matters. Never let the age difference come between you and the one that can possibly be your soul-mate, because the saying is true: you never know. Sadly, the young people I worked with over the summer, don’t get that. They see age as a limitation on many things, when the reality is age is only a number.

With that said, while working this summer, I found myself mesmerized over a guy I worked with this summer. There’s not even room in this blog post to even tell you all my thoughts about him, but I will try to at least give you a small picture as to how I felt. When I first met him, he was very sweet, friendly, and he has a corny sense of humor, (which is a turn on in itself) and he had these killer eyes, and a really awesome smile.

He had me right after we were preparing for one of the special days for the kids when he said to me, “I wish I met you a lot sooner.” My response was, “Well, you know me now.” And then later on in the summer his corny sense of humor showed when I told him that I found bacon duck tape for his group to use in art and he said, “Is that edible?” I said, “Oh, you like to eat duck tape?” He responded with, “Sometimes, I eat duck tape,” and his cheeks got all red and he smirked a laugh. (Note: his group did food art)

I even decided to ask him if he wanted to help one of my friends win a bartending contest and even told him to bring his friends, because I thought he was on the verge of being friends with me. But as much as it seemed that he was interested in at least being my friend, for some reason, he seemed to change his mind. Even though I noticed him, noticing me. Even though we seemed to converse from time to time, towards the end of the summer, he just slowly was fading into what I like to call, “oblivion.”

Without a doubt the only true way to get to know someone is to talk directly to them. Without a doubt, the best relationships happen unexpectedly. One of the biggest mistakes you can ever do is walk away from someone who stood there and waited from you. Starting all over again is not that bad. Because when you restart, you get another chance to make things right.

I’ve been trying to shake him off since the end of the summer, but sometimes when you get a certain feeling, no matter how hard you try, they can’t be ignored. So, I find myself sitting here trying to find a way to express how I feel today about a guy who I really wanted to get to know. And the only thing I can come up with is this: 1 Universe, 9 Planets, 204 Countries, 809 Islands, 7 Seas, and I had the privilege to meet you, JB. I’m really happy I met you, I hope you know that. Take every chance you get, because sometimes things only happen once.

Summer: A season that begins with the hopes of starting over and seizing every moment of sunshine. A season that renews your faith in romance, gives you hope that you can find love and makes you feel that anything is possible. Fun has no age limit. Love has no age limit. If we start to put a limit on who we should and shouldn’t be with, then humanity as we know it, no longer exists.

So, two cheers to the summer and having me remember a summer that began with a look and a smile, and hopefully turns into an Autumn wonder.