Stephanie’s Adventures in Singledom: Guest Blog by Susan Pentak

When are some men going to learn how to treat women with consideration and respect? While some men know how to treat women kindly, the rest of the men gender just plainly don’t know how! See, here’s what some of you guys tend to forget, we all have been hurt in our pasts. Yet getting back at the past while in the present is counterproductive and hurtful to others.

You can’t change the past. You CAN, however, learn to move past it. The girlfriend who dumped you, the ex-wife who made you bitter, and everyone else who did you wrong doesn’t matter anymore. The past actually shapes you into the man you are today. If you stay in the past, then you miss the good-hearted people in front of you, like female friend you flirt with and are scared to date. Some women are patient and will wait for you to be ready, while other women will just move on without you and leave you in the past.

Friendships with women are special, and very different from your friendships with the guys. If you want to keep their friendship, and are the gentleman you say you are, then stop sending mixed signals. If you don’t want their attention, then don’t act like you do. And if you already showed your interest and then backed off with no explaination, you are then hurting someone who is very special.

Guys, why do some of you act like a person you’d never want near your sister? Stop the immature and hurtful behavior. Try honesty, respect and consideration, all ingredients for friendship. Besides, there is a thing called karma, and she never forgets an address.

Think of it this way, would you want your daughters or sisters to be treated with such disrepect and dishonesty? There’s no need to ignore a woman and there’s no need to treat them like they are Barbie dolls either.

Just know that the best way to handle any situation is to talk. Yeah, yeah, we know you guys hate that, but, talking is communicating and with coummication comes understanding. Sometimes, all a girl wants is for you to fight for her. Make her believe that you may want this relationship more than she does. If you want your relationship to move forward, you have to at some point have to let go of the past & learn to write your own future.

If anyone would like to be a guest blogger, you can reach Stephanie Dolce at [email protected].